Question of the Day for Wednesday, July 17, 2013
Q. Our grandson will be getting married next year. We found out the couple have just moved in together. How do we in good conscience attend the Mass knowing they have been living in sin all that time? They are both Catholic, and also went to Catholic schools, and should know right from wrong. What are we supposed to do about attending? My husband says he will not attend, and I feel the same way. We want to be faithful to Almighty God when it comes to breaking the Sixth Commandment. I feel we would be hypocrites if we go to a wedding like that. I know we risk losing contact with him, but we have to stand up for what is right when it comes to pleasing God not man.
Patricia, Warren, Mich.
A. Here is a reply from Father Francis Hoffman, J.C.D.:
You express a valid concern about your grandson cohabiting with his fiancé before marriage. For most people, that would be considered a near occasion of sin because sexual intimacy is for marriage only, and one presumes that if they are living together and sleeping in the same bed, they’re having sex. If they are not married, they should not be having sex. Maybe they’re not; but maybe they are.
Read the rest of the answer at Our Sunday Visitor: http://www.osv.com/TCANav/TCAQuestionoftheDay/July15192013/tabid/8726/Default.aspx